Let's Pretend That It's Tuesday.

I had every intention of doing a "Touchy Topic Tuesday." All day I was thinking I would wait until Brian got home so he could control Kayelynn while I blogged. Wouldn't you know as soon as he got home we walked to his Grandma and Grandpa's house... And then invited them over to eat some pizza... And by the time they left, which was around 9:00, I had completely forgotten. Boo. So, we're going to pretend it's Tuesday. 


My topic's that I'm going to do might not be super 'touchy' but they will be topics that are defiantly disputed between different people... Like Teen pregnancy isn't as touchy as abortion, but it's a start. Oh, and feel free to post your opinion even if it's different from mine, but I'm not looking to start a super huge heated debate. I can always see the other side of the story though and I would appreciate seeing other people's opinion as long as they aren't super mean.

Teen Pregnancy & parenting. 

This isn't so much really a touchy topic for me. I know it is for some people though. There are a ton of pregnant teenagers... Pretty much everywhere. I don't have a problem with teen pregnancy itself, but I have a problem with teen parents that don't step up to the plate. 


I was a teen parent. I didn't have my daughter until I was 19, so I was on the older of the teen side. I was 18 when Brian and I got together and that's when I started to help with Seth and Paige. I used to get the dirtiest look from people when I would take them places. I guess because I was 18 and had a 2 year old and a 9 month old. Even though they weren't mine and people just assumed they would give me the dirtiest looks!!


You see all these different types of people on 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom. You see some people like Amber, Jenelle, and Farrah in her early days. All they wanted to do was party and go out... But, you also have the ones like Maci and even Catelynn who were responsible. 

I think the parents who enabled their kids need to be punched in the face. Farrah and Jenelle's mom's should be. They should have put their foot down and told their daughters to take care of their own kids. I know it's easy to say something, especially if you're not in there position... But I'm telling you right now, if Kayelynn was to have a baby at 16, I would make sure SHE raised her child, not me. Sure I would help.. I would watch the baby while she went to school (Depending on whether she stayed in high school or did online school) and I would also watch the baby while she worked and that would be it. I wouldn't provide the baby with everything it needed. I wouldn't let the baby go without. If I saw she was trying and just couldn't make ends meet I wouldn't make the baby sit in the same diaper all day because she couldn't afford them, but I would make her show me that she was at least trying. I wouldn't be like Chelsae's dad who literally paid all of her bills, bought her food, and bought everything for the baby... And he being on the show, in my opinion, makes girls think 'oh, I can get pregnant and I can move out and Daddy will pay for everything.'


There is a girl I know when was 15 and pregnant with TWINS. She ended up delivering her twins at 27 weeks, while she was still 15... And I'm pretty sure even if she would have carried to full term she would have been 15. Anyway, they were born at 27 weeks, thank god for her. She has been having a great old time. Going to King's Island and going to hang with her friends. I'm sorry, but I think she should be at that hospital from the time she wakes up until she goes to bed. She should be the one feeding and changing her kids... Not the nurses. It really pisses me off. She got to go be irresponsible and get pregnant at 15, and she doesn't even have to take care of them until they are most likely 4 months old. She's going to be getting a rude awakening when they get to come home. And for those of you thinking that 'she's only 15. And she needs to be enjoying this time while her kids are in the hospital without her. She's only a teenager.'.... That is bull. Like previously stated, she needs to be at the hospital all hours of the day with her kids.

With all that said, Age doesn't determine how good of a mother you are. Someone can have a kid at 16 and be a way better mother than someone who is 40 or even 50. I know so many people who are in their 30's and have kids. They waited until they were married and older... And their kids are so bad. They act like they were raised by monkeys. I know people in their 30's who have kids and their kids take care of themselves because the parents are too caught up in themselves to care for themselves. People in their 30's who have kids and neglect them.. So really just because you're older does not mean you are a good parent.


I am 20. I have 1 daughter. I also have two step-kids who are 5 and 3... And we're trying for another. Almost every person I see whether it be at Wal-mart or just a restaurant gives me a dirty look. They don't know that I take super good care of my kids. Brian works and allows me to stay home with them. I am the one who feed, baths, clothes, and plays with them... Not someone else. We are in the process of buying our own house. We own 2 cars. Our kids closets and dressers are filled with clothes. They have way too many toys to even consider playing with half of them. They are always clean, healthy, and happy. I am a better mother (Along with a few certain people that I know are reading this) than half of the grown "adult" mothers that I know.

I wish people would stop judging teens the way that they do. Yes, some of them are pieces of crap. Some of them do pawn their kids off on other people ALL the time. Some of them do neglect their kids... But a majority take care of their kids.. At least to the best of their ability, and they need peoples support to help make them better parents. They shouldn't have to deal with everyone giving them dirty looks or making smart ass comments.